Many breakups can go either A) well alright we're friends, B) We're not friends but we don't hate each other, or C) You can't stand to even LOOK at that person!
It all usually depends on the break up. If you have a messy break up then the chances are you're not going to be talking as much. If your break up is more of a mutual thing, or a mutual understandment you're most likely going to end up like A or B.
Is it okay to be friends with an ex?
Of course it is! There is nothing wrong with being friends with an ex, I personally am friends with most of my ex's. It sometimes depends on the persons personalty. For an example, if your a person who can't really "get over things", "get let go of a grudge" or even if you think you're really stubborn (and there is NOTHING wrong if you fall under any of those category's) it's more likely that you might not be as close of friends as you used to. But if your personalty ranks around more of a "go with the flow" kind of person, or someone who "can't hold a grudge" then most likely you'll be pretty decent with an ex. It also depends on the situation, the person could have really hurt you and just being around that kind of environment could just make you an unhappy person, so I suggest just let that go.
How can we be friends again?
If this person still really means a lot to you, and don't want them to disappear from your life completely it's possible to keep in touch. First you would want to start off just giving each other some space and some time for things to cool down, I mean you guys broke up for a reason right? Stuff like that doesn't just change over night. After a week or so later, just maybe give them a text, or if you see them in the halls of school ask them how things are going for them to let them know that you do still care about him/her and just checking in. BUT, don't bug the crap out of them all the time, the point of a break up is because you need space from that specific person. It pretty much clicks from there, just remember don't talk to them everyday time heals a lot of things, and everyone needs some space.
If this person still really means a lot to you, and don't want them to disappear from your life completely it's possible to keep in touch. First you would want to start off just giving each other some space and some time for things to cool down, I mean you guys broke up for a reason right? Stuff like that doesn't just change over night. After a week or so later, just maybe give them a text, or if you see them in the halls of school ask them how things are going for them to let them know that you do still care about him/her and just checking in. BUT, don't bug the crap out of them all the time, the point of a break up is because you need space from that specific person. It pretty much clicks from there, just remember don't talk to them everyday time heals a lot of things, and everyone needs some space.
Should we be friends again?
Like it was mentioned up there, it's completely up to you and that other person. Just "go with the flow" and see how things are looking like in a few weeks from then. I wouldn't want to rush into things so, you and your ex can both have some time the think and cool off about the whole break up. Just take some time for yourself relax and focus on yourself for awhile, thats what you need the most.
What about friends with benefits?
If your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with you, but still wants to have a sexual relationship is probably NOT the best idea. You need time away from each other, and the thing that's wrong with friends with benefits is that it does lead to someone in that matter with feelings for that other person and just really messes with your emotions. It would just all around be a bad situation to be in. So, look out for yourself and do what you feel comfortable with.
If your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with you, but still wants to have a sexual relationship is probably NOT the best idea. You need time away from each other, and the thing that's wrong with friends with benefits is that it does lead to someone in that matter with feelings for that other person and just really messes with your emotions. It would just all around be a bad situation to be in. So, look out for yourself and do what you feel comfortable with.
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