Booty Call

Have you ever been in a "relationship" where it's just hooking up, but you're not labeled as boyfriend/girlfriend? A lot of girls in high school have been in this situation and most find it hard to hear the reality of the situation. Some of these friends with benefits situations, are just "booty calls." Whether you see it like that or not, you deserve better than a guy who will just call you when he wants to hook up.

I wouldn't classify these types of "relationships" as actual relationships. Even though some girls will say "there's no strings attached," it ends up that they wish there was a labeled relationship as bf/gf. Someone usually gets hurt, whether it's the boy or the girl, usually the relationship doesn't end well.

If you or a friend has been or is in this type of relationship, don't sell yourself short, you deserve better. You may think it could turn into a relationship, but chances are it isn't going to. It very well may just be him, he may just want to hook up, but doesn't want a girlfriend. Or it could be you, you might just want to have a fling, but not a steady boyfriend. However, usually neither one of you are on the same page. One might develop feelings and may want something more, one might get a girlfriend/boyfriend. Again either way, the relationship doesn't end well.

If it does turn into a relationship, the base of it always will have started by just hooking up. There was a strong physical attraction, obviously, but what about any emotional connection? Do you even like him for who he is? Does he like you for who you are, and what you stand for?Chances are that relationship won't last long. By hooking up with someone and never speaking to them again, doesn't mean you are actually rid of them forever.

When it does end, you're probably just going to remember him as "the guy I hooked up with," and he'll remember you as "the girl I hooked up with." Wouldn't you want to be remembered as something more? Not just some girl. No one wants to be used, you deserve more than just a hook up and so does he. If a guy just wants to hook up and you want something more, tell him no, you're entitled to have someone who treats you with respect. Don't ever sell yourself short of anything.

xoxo KKSM