Meet The Parents

Meet The Parents, except unlike the movie, this probably won't end up with you burning down a gazebo, losing the family cat, or breaking the grandmothers urn. If you haven't seen the movie, watch it, it'll make you feel loads better after meeting your boyfriends parents. Meeting the parents of your bf/gf is one of the most nerve racking parts of the relationship timeline. In order to calm your nerves, I'm going to give some tips to try and help you:

1) Dress appropriately. No parent wants their little girl going out with a guy, who looks like he's a wannabe Eminem. Neither do parents want their angel of a son going out with a girl who looks like she's ready to hop on a pole. But don't dress like you're trying too hard, some parents get put off by the fact you're trying too hard to make them like you.

2) One of my friends was going on a date with this guy, but her parents wanted to meet him first. When he came over he greeted her with his tongue down her throat----did I mention it was in front of her dad? Needless to say, she wasn't going on anymore dates with him. I would say that you can old hands in front of the parents, but it's hard to tell the first time you meet parents. To keep it safe, keep the PDA to a minimum.

3) Be friendly, but not too overly friendly. Always keep the conversation going and listen to what they're saying, no matter how boring it may seem. I don't care if it's about polymer science it may come up in later conversation, and it may damage their view of you if they realize you could care less about what they were saying.

4) The Handshake. My dad is a firm believer in the fact you can tell a lot about a man by the way he shakes your hand. Don't try and rip his hand off like a neanderthal, but a nice firm handshake is key. (Don't over think it, that's when you mess it up)

5) Never talk about yourself in an arrogant way, no one likes a bragger. Being modest is fine, but not too modest. Take a compliment, but don't keep denying it- it seems like you want attention sometimes.

6) LISTEN. I've mentioned this before, but it's important. Parents know when you're getting glassy eyed and just don't care. It's rude and unappealing.

7) Be home by curfew, if you have one. It's disrespectful if you don't obey their roles, especially for meeting them for the first time, if you don't respect them do you respect their kid?

8) Don't bring up religion or politics at any time during the conversation. These are the most controversial topics between anyone. Trying to get on your bf/gf's parents good side don't start talking about how you feel about the President, and how he should do his job.

9) Presents? That's debatable, bringing flowers or something is harmless, but don't go overboard. It's usually not necessary, quite honestly.
10) Don't swear, they don't want their child going out with someone who has a sailors mouth.

This isn't something to sweat about all that much. Be yourself and be friendly, there's a 95% chance your bf/gf's parents will like you. Unless of course you lose the family cat or set something on fire, but the likelihood of that is slim. Any more tips you have? Comment!
xoxo KKSM

Is age really just a number?

Age is only a number, some would argue with this statement, and others would agree. Why is it fine that a 17 year old boy can go out with a 15 year old girl, when if it were a 17 year old girl going out with a 15 year old boy there'd be some talk? It's a total double standard, obviously, it all just depends on how you deal with that.

In high school and even in some instances college, age does matter, usually. 1 or 3 years is a big difference because you're in different stages of your life. However, when your in your twenties or thirties it doesn't matter what so ever if there's even if a 5 year difference, but seeing a 20 year old with a 15 year old is going to turn a lot of heads.

So what do you do if the guy's age you like causes a divide in the relationship now, but won't 5 years from now? Honestly, I feel it depends on how much the age difference is, 1 or 2 years no big deal, but when you start hitting 4 years, I feel that's pushing it. Yet, that's just me, but what about you? Does age really matter? Has our generation become so accepting, it just isn't a big deal to us anymore?

Comment! xoxo KKSM

Girls Only: A Royal Love Story

Prince William & Kate Middleton wed on April 30th, 2011. A date that will go in history books around the world.

Just last Monday, a new chapter in history was started. 

The oldest son of Princess Diana, William, married his fiancee, model Kate Middleton in a world-wide celebration broadcasted through every form of media. Every News station and TV channel reported the wonderful event and revealed every detail of the couple, down to the cost of the cake, the dress and the wedding itself. Every news reporter rushed to get the first story on the Royal Wedding, Americans wore tiaras & had tea parties, and every family in England crowded the streets before Buckingham Palace to witness the couple kiss on this happy, exciting, glorious day.

Isn't that every girl's dream? To be a princess? Can you imagine what it must be like? To wear a jeweled crown, long, beautiful gowns and to live in a big castle with your handsome Prince? I know when I was a little girl, I would dress up and pretend that I was a princess, did you?

Well, now being a teenager, I know that it's unrealistic to aspire to be a princess. Even though I wasn't born into royalty, I would love to feel like a princess everyday. 

Then, I realized...I will be a princess one day. You will too. All girls will be! How?

When Kate & Will met, their love story began. Don't you know that when you meet that person you were meant to be with you too will have your very own fairytale?

Being girls, we need to know that we are all princess's at heart, and we should be treated like a princess! We shouldn't let ourselves settle for less than we deserve! Listen girls. Find the boy that will fight dragons for you. That will hold the door open for you, tell you you're beautiful everyday, send you flowers, call you to tell you he's thinking of you, and loves you more than you can imagine.

Some might say, that'll never happen to me or boy's won't do that...they're wrong! Will & Kate demonstrate that! I've seen it happen and I know that boys have a heart, feel feelings and have a romantic side...even if we don't always see it.

So why settle for less than we deserve? Girls can sometimes let boys walk all over them, fall for the bad boy and like the guy whose an @$$. We all do it. But we all deserve our own polite, loving, caring, brave, handsome prince. Trust when I say that YOUR prince will come. Maybe not next week or maybe not even next year but you will find love! After all, doesn't the prince/princess have to go on an adventure and learn some things about him/herself before he/she can find the right one for them? Same goes for real life!

Will & Kate can represent how every guy should treat his girl! Like a princess. Because she deserves to be one. Even if you haven't found your prince yet, you still are a princess.The world will watch as Will & Kate's love story comes alive and grows as they take on the throne, find their castle and someday create a family. Every girl has to search for her own definition of her perfect "prince". He's out there waiting to find you, just as mush as you're waiting to find him. When it comes to your own fairytale everything WILL be perfect. Just like the movies. A whole new world will be created, on land or under the sea, awakened with true love's kiss, maybe with the help of seven dwarfs and the glass slipper will fit. 

Don't forget to feel like a princess everyday. You are one :*

xoxo KKSM ;)

For You, With Love

Presents.  In my opinion, this can be one stressful part of a relationship. Why? That’s simple. Unless you have some sort of psychic mind – reading powers, you probably don’t know the exact present to get someone. Stressful enough as it is, not knowing what to get a “significant other” can be incredibly overwhelming.

It’s not just the process of brainstorming a good idea either, there’s always a question on price or quantity. Like if you get your boyfriend a lovely shirt, and he comes in with a bag full of stuff for you… it can lead to tension, which no one wants.

So how can you completely avoid this problem?

YOU CAN’T!!!!!!!

But how can we try to completely avoid this problem? Much easier.

First of all, before you even start thinking of a present for your boyfriend/girlfriend, set a price limit. It may sound bad, but it’s completely necessary. Without an understanding on a price ball park, how are you or your BF/GF supposed to know what to get?

Secondly, don’t think of stereotypical gift ideas. If your BF/GF likes American Eagle, for example, it doesn’t mean that their gift has to come from American Eagle!

Third, try to put as much thought into the gift as possible. For example, don’t just get him any shirt. Get him the shirt that he said he liked when you went to the mall together last weekend.

Lastly, always remember it’s not always about the material item, it’s the thought that counts. Sometimes your BF/GF will get you something inconsiderate, unimportant, trivial, insignificant or just plain ugly. My advice? Just try be thankful…because it probably could be worse.

Have you had any bad experiences with gifts from your BF/GF? Let me know!

Meg <3

Love? or Lust?

You're 17 years old, not even considered a legal adult in the eyes of the law, you're considered inadequate to be able to make an effective decision for your benefit. If you're not even considered an adult, can you really even love someone? Do you even know what true love is? My idea of true love is that you'd lay everything on the line just to make someone happy even if that means a life without you. Yet, teenagers everyday are getting together, breaking up, and hooking up; do they know what love is?

I honestly feel the word is thrown around all over the place, that sometimes it loses it's meaning. I love my mom, dad, and sisters, but I also love M&M's. Is it the same kind of love, of course not, or are there different levels in which you love something or someone?
In high school, do you ever really know what true love is? Can you love someone one month and another the next? I truly believe that some high schoolers do and can find love while in high school, but it's extremely rare. I find that most teens are in lust more than in love. You can of course care about someone, but are you really in love? Would you give up everything for that person, better yet would they do the same for you?

The brain doesn't fully develop until the age of 25, for the average person. Girls are more prone to developing and maturing early, while boys take a longer time. So can the average teenage boy really be in love? I'm not to sure myself, I feel that some definitely can be, but a lot of them say that they love the girl they're with because there's nothing else to say. They're almost expected to say it when they're in a relationship.

My view on this? I think it's rather rare to be truly in love in high school, is it possible, yes, but is it likely, no. I think I'm too young to know exactly what love is, I know I've had an attraction to guys and that I've liked them, but I would not say I've ever been in love. I think you don't even have to ask yourself if you're in love or not, you just know when you're with the right person. Now don't get me wrong, I don't think you can only love one person and then you're with them for the rest of your life, I think you can love multiple people, but sometimes it's on a different level of love. You love the guy as a brother, or a friend, but not as your bf. In high school there's so many people that you haven't met. Why is everyone so quick to say 'I love you' when they may not even know what that really means?

xoxo KKSM

Singled Out

All my single ladies, now put your hands up!

What comes to your mind when you hear the word single? To me, it can mean three things.
1) If a guy or girl is single, it means that he/she is indepent, doesnt feel the need to be someone and is taking time to figure out to improve themselves; that way when they are in a relationship they know what they want and can be their best to their partner. 
2) He/she got dumped or ended their relationship with their partner for some reason and is heartbroken and hasnt gotten over it and cant seem to find another.
3) He/she doesnt want a relationship and is hooking up with many people at a time. They dont want to be tied down and they want to be able to make their rounds.

Some people may look at being single unacceptable, and maybe they feel unworthy of someone or feel like there is no one interested.

There are also people that I know that hate being single and because of this they simply date whoever they can get or who is interested and doesnt really have a connection with that person. They basically just want to have the ability to say that they're with someone. This is something that I personally would not do. It's pointless and not beneficial in any way. It's a waste of time! If this is you, think twice. What's more important to you? A title/label/status? or Waiting to find the person you REALLY feel an attraction to? Think about it.

If you're single because you cant move on from your previous relationship, I can imagine that is probably a tough position to be in. But know that it is healthier for you to pick yourself and move on. Look for something better because obviously there was something about your previous relationship that proved itself to not work and be a problem to lead to the break-up, so why would you want to go through that again if you run back to that person?  There is more than one person for you out there. Look for a new beginning! This time you will know what works for you and what doesnt, so now you can have a more successful, happier relationship than before(:

For all of those who are single....being single is NOT bad! Every one of us will got through a time when we're single. Before we find the person we're meant to be with, and especially in between relationships. Trust me, I know when you're single you are going to feel alone at times, and feel like there may be no hope to find someone. You have time! You're not limited to the people in school! Boys/girls everywhere are looking for the same thing as you are, so dont feel alone.

There are so many advantages to being single! No jealousy, curiousity of where he/she is, fears of being cheated on, you can flirt with whoever you want, no "why didnt you call me last night when you said you would?", you can hang with other guys and girls, no mess between you're bestfriend and boyfriend/girlfriend....the list goes on!!!! So girls and guys, if you're single be yourself, be confident and step out in your best swag.

Friday night=Date night

Getting ready for dates, for me at least, is rather stressful. What do you wear? Does your makeup look good? Does your hair look good? Will you have enough to talk about? blah blah blah.... I usually have to get my mind off of it by doing something else, but I always make sure that I'm on time, nothing is worse than being late, or standing someone up.

This post I decided I'm just going to do tips about the "getting ready" process of going on a date and the "during."

1) Make sure you have plenty of TIME. Again nothings worse than being late on a first date. Make sure you shower and you're ready to go.

2) Don't get too analytical about the way you look, being paranoid won't help being on the date. You'll just be self conscious, and it'll show-trust me.

3) Have what you want to wear out ahead of time, so you have time to do our hair and makeup etc..

4) Never ever ever ever ever, EVER stand someone up on a date. It's one of the rudest things you could do, plus the person is probably beyond humiliated. If you don't want to go on a date with someone, just say no. Being honest with someone instead of leaving them on is the best way to go.

5) Offer to pay for the bill, wherever you end up going. It's common courtesy, however if he sticks you with the entire bill, you need a new date.

6) Don't worry about the conversation, if you are too paranoid it'll show and then the conversation will definitely stop.

7) If you see your friends out on the date, but he's not really friends with them, make sure you introduce him, AND don't chat for too long. You shouldn't be there to hang with friends, but you are on a date.

8) One of my personal pet peeves is when girls belch, I think it's disgusting. I heard one girl do it at her lunch table today, that's why I'm bringing it up. Just FYI.

9) Have fun! Even if you think you're not really into the person anymore, just go with it and have fun. If you don't want things to move forward, then they don't have to.

xoxo KKSM

P.S. Any more tips you guys can come up with from personal experience?