Green with Envy

Jealousy is a monster that can rip apart a relationship. One of my friends bf's believes it's impossible for girls to have guy friends who are just 'friends.' I think he's ridiculous. His jealousy lead to their break up. Jealousy in a relationship is tiring, it also stems from lack of self confidence. When the person you're seeing has little self esteem it works its way into the relationship and stays there, up until someone can't stay take it anymore.

If your bf/gf is jealous ALL THE TIME, it's probably flattering at first, but then it gets to be just plain annoying. If you're insecure all the time it gets tiring for someone to constantly build your self esteem up all the time. There may be a patience level which everyone has, but for everyone there's always a limit. When it exceeds that limit, it can lead to a nasty fight.

To avoid a fight there's only three options I see. 1) Talk to the person about it. Ensure them you're with them, but that they need to start believing that you're not going to go out and cheat on them. 2) You can ignore it completely, which is going to be difficult. If someone doesn't trust you, which I see as a big base for a relationship to even begin, it's bound to end. 3) Break up, if you're getting annoyed, you'll stay annoyed, therefore just end it now before it gets even nastier.

Jealousy can lead people to do vengeful things, which will only damage the relationship further. A lot of it is trust issues, the person with excessive jealousy doesn't trust you. It can mess with your head, thus making it seem like somethings wrong with you, but it's them not you.

Jealousy can ruin a relationship. Of course there's degrees of jealousy, not all will ruin a relationship, but when your bf/gf needs a constant reminder you're staying with them, it can and will tire everyone out.

xoxo KKSM