Break Ups: Life After Love


It happens in every relationship. It signifies the end of the relationship, and causes you to sign on Fcebook and change your status to "single." If you've ever heard your boyfriend/girlfriend say, "I think we need to talk..." or "I just dont know if I feel the same about you as I did....", or "I think we need to see other people..." or the most common, "I think we need to break up...", you know whats coming. For us girls, being "dumped" means grabbing a gallon of Chocolate Cookie Dough ice cream, climbing into bed wearing his sweatshirt and watching cheesy love stories all day, mascara running down our cheeks. Or maybe for some girls, they take break ups differently and are fine and move on easily after their boyrfriend is gone. Every girl is different.
 What do you think? Does the boy or girl handle the break up better?

For boys, if they were in the relationship and they simply got sick of being with the same girl, or maybe just didnt feel the same about her as they did in the beginning, they might take the break up as a sign of relief. Sometimes, the boy may take it harder if he was the one being dumped, but that makes sense right? If your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with you, of course it would be harder for you right? Well in my opinion, it can be equal. Of course if you really cared about the person you were with, its not going to be easy to tell them that you dont want to be with them anymore and finding the words to tell them how you feel could be tough. But on the other end, hearing your boyfriend/girlfriend say they no longer want you is not what you probably ever want to hear.
Teen relationships can last from 6 months to 2 years, and the longevity of the relationship plays a key role in how both members of the relationship take the break up. Sooner or later, we all will have to hear those words or say them ourselves.
So now that you've gotten past the breaking up part....how do you pick up the pieces and move on? If you were really heart broken after a break up, it could take weeks or even months to forget everything you knew about being with that person. It is definetly an extremely hard process for alot of guys and girls. Moving on is in my opinion the most crucial step in getting over someone. If you were to reflect on the relationship and you realized that it wasnt best for you to be with that person, then maybe moving on and finding something better is the best remedy.
Of course, how you choose to move on and get over someone is important. Forexample, hooking up with another person the day after your break up to get revenge probably isnt the best thing to do. This is where re-bounds and jealousy come into play. So moving on in a positive way definetly effects how your life will be after the relationship.
On the positive side, remember that you are not alone and your friends willbe there to support you when this happens. Relationships and break ups are perfectly normal and we all need to experience them in our life to figure out what kind of relationship is best for each and every one of us. Our experiences now will make the future so much better.