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In a high school relationship, it would be naive of parents to think sex is out of the question. However, statistics say that almost half of all the students between 9th and 12th grade have had sex. Whether or not your choice is to stay either abstinent or not, the choice is up to that particular individual. But, numerous questions are asked.

"Am I too young?"

- This blog is supposed to help teens, yet I can only try be as objective as I can be. For that, I can see multiple points of view. 1) The teen who has been dating the boyfriend for a while and thinks they're ready to take it to the next level. You may be, and that is up to both people involved, obviously, but think about how things will change afterwards. 2) At my age, 17, it seems as if every one's "doing it", yet that should not even be considered a reason why to have sex. It should be something you want to share with the person you love. 3) When one of my friends says they've has sex with their bf/gf I don't really think anything of it. However, when I hear a freshman having sex it kind of surprises me. You're fourteen when you enter high school, you've barely started puberty, how do you know if you're ready, actually ready. It's been proven that the brain hasn't fully developed until the age of 25. That of course doesn't mean you need to wait until you are 25, but it's something to take in consideration.

No matter what the situation is, you must practice safe sex. When adults said that when I was younger, I felt like they're talking about a religion for crying out loud. Older now, I realize the importance of safe sex. It's just irresponsible to not be on some type of birth control, or using condoms. STD's and pregnancy are becoming more and more prominent.

"Abstinence..?"

-Abstinence. Most have heard the word relating to religion, as a vow to God. However, some stay abstinent because it's their personal choice. Just because you have had sex, doesn't mean you're more grown up then the person who has not had sex. It's your personal choice, and you should not be pressure into it.

"Who to talk to?"

-Everyone should have someone to talk to about their love life. Mostly an adult could guide you in the right direction, where to get birth control etc.. However, there are always friends, siblings, and hot lines. another person you need to talk to is you bf/gf, if you can't talk about the most intimate thing you could share with a person, there's no reason why you should be doing it.

Final points:

~make sure you're ready and are not being pressured into it

~ make sure you have the right protection

~you've actually TALKED to your bf/gf

If you need any more advice, or have any comments, comment on our blog!

xoxo KKSM

Parents and Their Teen's Relationships

You've read the stories and seen the movies that show the classic battle between parents and their child's relationship. Mom or Dad doesnt approve of their son or daughters love interest because of wealth, status or the love interest's past actions and troubles. But most often today, parents dont approve of their teen's relationship because of the dislike of personality of the boy/girl their son/daughter is dating. This could be a problem for many teens in relationships, or maybe isnt even a problem at all for some. In my opinion, parents should support and encourage teenagers to have relationships for many reasons. Having a relationship with someone helps a boy/girl figure out what they look for in a person, what personality type they like/can easily get along with and they get a chance to know what its liked to feel loved / wanted by another human being. In my opinion, parents can sometimes be unsupportive and they dont approve of the decisions their son/daughter makes when choosing a boyfriend or girlfriend. Even if the parent does not personally like the person their teen chooses to have a relationship with, they still should make an effort to get along with the person their son/daughter is dating. Being teenagers, we're at an age to know well enough what kind of person we want for ourselves and the personality qualities we like the most. We practice getting along with others everyday, and we build friendships based off of similarities in character and hobbies. So for our parents to disapprove of who we choose to be with is not fair. Teens make their personal decision on who they choose to date, and they may see something in the person they're dating that no one else can see. We're at the time in our life where practing relationships and all the other factors that come with it is most important. Having high school relationships help set standards and create a solid foundation for our relationships in the future. Everyone has the opportunity to choose who they want to be with, and if their parents dont approve/understand then they are missing out on helping their teen in one of the most crucial dating experiences of their life.

Dating: Is it worth the anxiety attack....definitely

Probably one of the most nerve racking situations for a teenager to be in, is most likely "The First Date." Thinking of all the possibilities of something going wrong on the date; What if i don't look good? Is there something between my teeth? Does he even like me? It could drive someone crazy. How can anyone calm themselves down? I know for me, Ihave to busy myself with a multitude of tasks before I can really calm down. Then there's the post date anxiety. When will he call for another date? Should I call? Am I reading too much into his actions? At this point I want to hear from our readers. Where have you and a first date gone? Where do you think is the most common first date place? Is there any major pet peeves you cannot stand while with a date? For instance being late picking you up... What could be some general guides for "Dating Etiquette." When is the right time to call for a second date, and who should make the first move? Obviously you don't have to answer all of these questions, I was just mentioning some that we'll cover in the next few days.

xoxo KKSM

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Flirtationships: The Beginning

Even though it may seem like some jump into relationships, there is what could be called a "flirtationship." It's the in between stage of friends to more than. Many high schoolers have experienced their own 'flirtationships.' Some end pretty badly, even ruining the friendship, but some also turn out just fine.

Both Bryant and Keith, two high school juniors, have been subject to flirtationships. Keith says it all started just by talking, then asking for her number, "you got to put a little game into it to make it work." Although, some flirtationships can lead into relationships, sometimes they just end. Depending on the reaction on both ends of the flirtationship could cause some uncomfortable feelings in the aftermath.

"It was so awkward once it ended. We weren't in the same class though. Thank God!" responded Linnea, a junior.

Jeff however, would beg to differ, "I don't feel awkward about it-I don't know about them, but I'm fine afterwards."

Flirtationships can be fun and playful, yet there have been some cases where it has cause problems in the friendship before the flirting began.

"We're no longer friends," was the common response from all Keith, Linnea, and Caitt, all juniors.

Whether or not flirtationships are harmless or can cause problems in a previous relationship, the answer is up in the air. However, almost everyone has found, or will find, themselves to be in the beginning of the start of a relationship-a flirtationship.